Friday, June 10, 2016

Over and Over Again...Not on OUR Watch.

“Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.”
-Author Anne Lamott

Pardon my absence, and more so, pardon OUR language, but...DO NOT pardon our efforts to bring awareness and hopefully, change, and healing for victims! 

Come! Participate! Share! Even if you're not in New York. Create your own! I, along with many others, can help!


This, scarily and sadly, coincides with my last post (in March--I know, it's been too long, my friends) about the word:


[[Background of this particular case HERE.]]

But, even so, the absence of the word NO does not equal YES.
Just because NO isn't blatantly expressed or has stopped being expressed, that does NOT constitute consent. 

Well, my girl group, GRLCVLT, is hosting an event that has amassed HUGE support and publicity since the original idea was conceived. It began as a small group of women who planned to sit in an apartment and write complaint letters to unseat a highly unfair and unjust judge, Aaron Persky, who slapped convicted rapist, Stanford swimmer Brock Turner, with a pitiful sentence of 6 months in jail, of which he will probably only serve about three. Three months. Three measly months. And guess what Judge Persky's reasoning/defense for this "light sentence" happened to be?

"A severe impact?! A severe impact?! Isn't that typically the intent of jail time and the judicial system in impact the individual in such a way that transforms him or her (ideally)?

We should all be scratching our heads and wondering how in the heck this is continuing to not only occur but is allowed be swept aside as if this kid simply swiped a lollipop off of the deli counter? Oh, but the kid competed in the 2012 Olympic trials, so I'm really glad that we're all aware about his natural talents besides preying on unconscious or inebriated humans. He blames his actions on the prevalence of alcohol abuse on college campuses. 

If you haven't been keeping up with the "Stanford swimmer's tale," and you truly want to drive yourself nuts and poke your eyeballs out, you can catch up more HERE and HERE.

Oh, and then, there's the disgusting letter in which his father defends his actions. He's angered that his son was given actual jail time, rather than just probation, stating that the sentence was “a steep price ... for 20 minutes of action.” (See the entire article HERE)


Our event here in New York is NOT to shed any more light on or give any further energy to Brock and his ridiculous and disgusting actions. This is not about HIM. The opposite, in fact. It is to (hopefully) provoke change. We will be writing and sending letters in order to allow a more challenging, equipt judge in this area to handle such cases. Persky has proved that he is unqualified. His almost complete silence is even more disturbing. Hello, Judge? Are YOU feeling JUDGED yet? You should.

Overall, we must stay angry. Stay angry that these actions are happening daily, and for the most part, the perpetrators are walking away...without the physical, emotional, and mental waste that will remain with the victim for a lifetime.

It's time to do something. Write a letter. Write a blog. Look up cases near you. Review politicians' and judges' track records. 

Stay awake!

I'm doing my very best also to not sit back when I see and hear about humans rights' violations.

I will leave you with the most powerful statement from this entire case. It's from the victim, and my heart swells for her. 

"And finally, to girls everywhere, I am with you. On nights when you feel alone, I am with you. When people doubt you or dismiss you, I am with you. I fought everyday for you. So never stop fighting, I believe you. As the author Anne Lamott once wrote, “Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.” Although I can’t save every boat, I hope that by speaking today, you absorbed a small amount of light, a small knowing that you can’t be silenced, a small satisfaction that justice was served, a small assurance that we are getting somewhere, and a big, big knowing that you are important, unquestionably, you are untouchable, you are beautiful, you are to be valued, respected, undeniably, every minute of every day, you are powerful and nobody can take that away from you. To girls everywhere, I am with you. Thank you." 

Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Recreation: Coming Back to Life.


SUCH a small word.
Just two letters.


Comprised of the letters "N" and "O," one very short but VERY LOUD word. 




Hate her or love her, you surely can't deny the influence of and absolute aura of Lady Gaga, especially when she speaks on this subject....I mean belttttttttttts as the Queen can only do. 


The Lady herself performed this particular emotional ballad "Till it Happens to You" (to put it mildly) on the 2016 Oscars Awards for her song's appearance on the documentary "The Hunting Ground." Documentary and both. I'm demanding it, really, at this point. The incredible amount  of sexual assault in general--hey-aren't we ALL discussing this?!-- should be alarming enough this day and age. Truly, shouldn't we all be discussing this?! Really? Considering the amount of "equal rights" we're all striving for, working for, posting about, tweeting about...but, that's still such a joke (come on! let's be real!), and we all have to realize that at some level. Even more alarming, though? EVEN MORE?  The unreported accounts AND the lack of repercussions for those that are reported. No media attention. No justice. The victims become the perpetrators. Especially, when the actual violators are people of stature, power, money, and most notoriously, athletes or of fame. We blame the victim. She/He drank too much. She/He was known for being "slutty" or dressing immodestly. She/He purused. Wanted IT. The victim initiated the encounter, and then said "no." NO. It's a pretty easy word to understand. We've all been able to speak that one tiny, but powerful word since we were infants. We should get it by now. 

NO! NO! NO! 

Give me a break. All of the same 'ole excuses for the same despicable crimes. 

I've had enough. 

Lady Gaga's performance at the 2016 Oscars with 50 survivors of college sexual assault and rape. 

I'm posting this video and strongly, desperately encourage you to watch "The Hunting Ground," which, of course, is on Netflix for your convenience. It's pretty scary. But, this video brings me to tears. 1 in 5 undergraduate students will be sexually assaulted. So, someone you KNOW will have this occur to him or her.

I think that we can all relate, right? That feeling...That black hole of emptiness of confusion and desperation. You don't know how it feels until IT happens to you. NO matter what your IT might be. IT embodies an array of issues. We're are just try to struggle a little less, experience a little less pain, and elicit and receive more warmth and kindness. Let's try a little empathy. 

You tell me "it gets better, it gets better,

in time"

You say I'll pull myself together, pull it together,

"You'll be fine"

Tell me what the hell do you know,

What do you know,
Tell me how the hell could you know,
How! could you know

Till it happens to you, you don't know

How it feels,

How it feels.

Till it happens to you, you won't know

It won't be real

No It won't be real
Won't know how it feels.

So to answer your hypothetical question, 

"NO" doesn't seem so short and weak any longer, now does it? 


Tuesday, November 17, 2015

The IT Girl of Gowns NOW: Leanne Marshall

    Leanne Marshall, the notable season 5 Project Runway winner, showed an ethereal F/W 15 collection at Mercedes Benz Fashion Week in February that continued to celebrate the designer's affinity and clear knack for femininity. 

    The collection highlighted Marshall's astonishing intricate skill with delicacy, using fabrics and fluid silhouettes to ensure this. Sheer--many, dangerously so--and gowns and skirts floated down the runway by models, topped by small band-like crowns. A romance a la A Midsummer Night's Dream captivated the audience by the detail of each hand-dyed, hand-painted garment...right down to the embellished undergarments left exposed beneath many.

Now, that's enchantment down to the bone. 

Silk wool, silk organza, and silk chiffon made up the collection with a few appearances by wool crepe pants and structured coats and vests and a very brief appearance by a leather bustier, keeping the looks light. 

    Interestingly, the forty-two looks were divided into four categories, noted in French. The separate categories, seemingly represented the stages of intense love: the voyage toward, the chase (of love), the obsession, and finale of insanity (la demence). Each embodied their respective stage, noticeably transitioning in color, style, and overall attitude. 

    Leanne Marshall's standout F/W 15 collection further proved that her win on Project Runway was no coincidence. Her new line, though was simply magical--We've been wooed. 

This fall and winter, you've been warned. 

You'll either be wearing one of these or stand, spellbound, watching someone else cascade in the dress of all of our dreams. Is it midnight yet? 

***NOTE: Much like Carrie Underwood at 49th Country Music Awards below in Leanne Marshall! 

Thursday, November 5, 2015

49th CMA Awards: The On-point, Agh, and OK

Nashville proved itself--
once again

It is THE Music City. 

Although I only caught mere minutes of the country-tastic, big-haired, and shiny-shiny-shiny rhinestone cowpeople 49th Country Music Awards, most of these crooners didn't miss the a guitar note when it came to their looks. When did this start happening? I'm sorry, y'all. I haven't been giving enough of you credit. I didn't see one tank (I don't like the word "____ beater"). I could have very well missed that display of incredibly handy work attire, although I highly doubt it. Hey, I can say these things. I'm one of you. I'm from Tennessee. But, we all don't have to be southern to be country. Damn right.

Not too many bumpkins were just chillin' it in last night's crowd (See what I did there? See HERE). They may be redneck women and those kinds of girls, but they clearly know their Giuseppe Zanotti's from their Corral boots. No offense, I swear. I actually love a good boot, and Corral nails that in both function and style. Country music and its representation definitely isn't what it once was. I think we can all attest that, even if you aren't a fan, or much more likely, "hate country music." For good or for bad, depending on your take, "country" encompasses many different sounds, looks, and personalities. It's much more fluid now, and it's difficult to decipher the line between all genres in today's music world, considering almost every artist utilizes beats and elements from other pre-defined genres. Eh, I suppose that's a pretty accurate portrayal of today's society in general. Life evolves, and that includes every "stereotype" that we've become accustomed to, and guess what? Let's go with it.

But truly, let's go with the ladies of the CMA's first. Here are my top picks, which feature one of my favorite designers of luxury women's wear, Leanne Marshall. Carrie Underwood wore two dresses by this incredible artist (after the initial red carpet look), which makes a pretty big (haired) statement in terms of brand validation. Go, Leanne. I last saw her presentation in February, and coming soon, you'll my entire review of what out right now from her! Oh, I mean, what you and I should be wearing. But, really. I should be. You can do you. Ha.

Let's get down to these best dressed ladies of country music, and then some...that didn't quite make the cut.

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Jennifer Nettles (obsessed!) // Jewel in Lorena Sarbu (obsessed #2!)

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Carrie Underwood in Gauri+Nainika // Miranda Lambert in Versace

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Jana Kramer // Kimberly Williams-Paisley in Marchesa

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Allie Allen in Camille La Vie // Kelsea Ballerini in Paolo Sebastian

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The Band Perry looking sharp...Kimberly Perry? Meow. 


The mehhhhhh and the "what?!"

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 Brantley Gilbert & Amber Cochran // Kimberly Schlapman // Kaitlyn Bristowe & Shawn Booth

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RaeLynn // Steve Martin & Edie Brickell // Lindsey Stirlin


These remind me of this gem-of -a -human from "We're the Millers."

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" You have no ragrets? Not even a single letter?" 

Now, tell me. Who were your favorites? What are YOUR thoughts on "country music" today and what it has become? Is it natural evolution and integrative to combine sounds and looks, or should we each stay in our own respective "lanes?" 

Questions of the day, courtesy of yours truly.

You're welcome for the brain fuel.

**All images courtesy of Getty**

Thursday, October 22, 2015

What I Wore: Spikes and Skulls

Can you believe that it is already the very end of October?!
Where has the time gone?
I know, I know. I'm a broken record at this point, always saying that.

I'm confused though (once again!), and I feel like I blinked...BAM. Fall hit me in the face... 
Fall on face. 

I wore this outfit on one of those insane days that THE POPE was in town. People, New Yorkers, absolutely love this leader and respect him immensely. It was a circus. A good circus, and I loved seeing the city alive with excitement 

A good hat (I'm obsessed with this style! Especially all of these by Bailey) makes any outfit for me personally, especially when paired with prints and studs. 

City slicker style. 

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Bailey wide-brimmed hat // Express slim boyfriend jeans // BCBG Maxazria studded heels (Similar Here, Here, and Here) // Ark & Co. blouse with back cutout // Alexander McQueen skull silk scarf // Kat Von D fuschia lipstick // 
Ray-Ban black aviators (discounted!) // Jill Stuart metallic handbag (handpainted by me)

So, yes, me and hats. No surprises about that loving relationship. I've started to love the proper look of a feminine blouse topped off by a scarf/bow. Although I'm not incredibly "preppy" by definition--OK, I would not consider my style that at all--I do like to take a few notes here and there from the prepster handbook and mix them with edgier or unexpected details. I chose a classic ivory collared button-up with a draped cutout in the back, which I am eerily obsessed with. Back cleavage? OH, YEAH. Sign me up. The scarf is a classic Alexander McQueen skull and crossbone print, which I wear often, even if just tied onto a handbag. I'll admit, I don't shop at Express often or even enter one (again, it's New York, and I don't often end up at mall-type outlets), but I stumbled into the downtown Brooklyn Express outlet. Who knew?! I fortunately snagged two VERY discounted pairs of jeans. I hardly wear anything but dark or black, slim pants (leather, anyone?). I love this pair of  light-washed"slim fit boyfriend jeans." Both pairs, though, are shockingly comfortable while flattering my super short frame. Pops of color came in the form of a berry-hued lipstick by Kat Von D and an older Jill Stuart bag that I painted on with metallic fabric paint. 

**Shhhhhh, don't tell Jill! It used to be a very pale grey shade and became totally discolored by other clothing and by daily wear itself. This was one of my best ideas yet! Try it!

Lastly, studded pumps played well with the vibe of the skull scarf, while simultaneously offsetting the loose, casual look of the jeans. All in all, this was totally a "mix and match" ensemble. A little of this, a little of that. But, hey, to each their own! I've included more inspiration below:

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September (and February!)  means New York Fashion Week, which is always pretty nutty. The fall weather is just perfect, though, for displaying accessories and most recognizably, shoes. In the winter, we're all in boots or booties...or snow boots...yeah. So, boots galore. Fall fashion week allots a more varied display of footwear. I never quite make it to all of the events, presentations, runway shows and parties that I plan to attend. It's a bummer but a pretty all-too-common occurrence for most of us when we're zipping from one side of the town to the other, then back uptown and down again. Some shows start excruciatingly late; some begin right on time. You never know, so you just do the very best you can and prioritize.

This month, I experienced another joyful "life moment." I met the youngest addition to my family, my second niece, and became a third-time aunt. A proud one, at that. All of these babies around have me itching. This 'ole gal has decided that she's not turning a year older come December. Nope. Not happening. Maybe next year? Or never.

Never works for me.

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